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Even though dating apps are most popular among Millennials, according to a recent Bustle survey with dating app Happn of over 1,000 dating app users, 78 percent of women and 85 percent of men still want to meet people IRL. That's why for the second year in a row, Bustle is deeming April, 'App-less April' and encouraging our staff and readers to delete their dating apps for 30 days and meet people the old-fashioned way: offline. With participants tracking their progress and tricks and tips from dating experts, we'll be helping you feel empowered to meet people IRL all month long.

Though I've had my fair share of issues with dating through apps, I've never truly thought that my behavior on dating apps was anything but healthy. Sure, I often found myself reliant on apps for little doses of confidence and validation throughout my day (particularly when my issues with anxiety and body dysmorphia flare up), but when it came to who I swiped right and left on, who I made date plans with, and even my flirtation tactics, I've always been fairly happy with them. The reason I chose to partake in Bustle's App-less April challenge — which encourages people to delete their dating apps for 30 days and get back to the basics when it comes to meeting people — was more-so because I wanted to learn how to fully love myself before I went back to dating, not because I thought my dating app behavior needed a revamp.

Now, however, after a week of no dating apps, no talking to new people online, and absolutely no swiping, I've come to the undeniable conclusion that I was wrong. So, so wrong.

It's also given me more time to reflect, which is how I've come to the conclusion that I've been going about dating apps the wrong way.

See, a week of self-imposed exile from the very thing you've come to rely on for things that should technically be independent of everything but yourself — aka confidence, validation, activities for 11 p.m. when you're bored and have nothing else to do — is a funny thing. It forces you to be self-reliant in ways you may have refused to be before (or, at least, I know I refused to be before). For starters, without dating apps around to give me that constant confidence hit to appease my long-standing issues with anxiety and body dysmorphia (my therapist would probably have another aneurysm if she read this), I was forced to find it from myself and myself only. That one's been a rocky road, I won't lie, but these things are never solved over the course of a week. (Oh, as for the boredom-solving? I've taken up Candy Crush and am extremely pleased to say I'm currently ranking number one on the Upper East Side. Take that, Blair Waldorf.)

It's also given me more time to reflect, which is how I've come to the conclusion that I've been going about dating apps the wrong way. 'I suggest a break to my clients all the time,' says Ravid Yosef, dating and relationship coach, tells Bustle. 'Sometimes our energy is what's attracting others and if we don't have enough self-care in our life or get obsessive with our notifications, we start looking for validations outside of ourselves. Which in turn attracts the wrong kind of attention.'

I don't know when I'll go back to dating online — if it'll be at the end of this challenge, in a few months, or even ever — but I do know that if I do, I'm going to keep these things in mind going forward:

I still stand by the belief that there's nothing wrong with being picky — after all, I know what I'm looking for in a partner, so why should I settle for anything else when there are so many single dudes out in the world? — but I have noticed that I may be swiping left on guys who could actually be decent people. My experience meeting romantic partners IRL isn't terribly developed, sure, but every time I stumble upon one of my male friends' profile on Tinder, OkCupid, or Bumble, more often than not I determine that if I didn't know this guy and were considering them as a romantic option, I'd probably be put off by something on their profile (the offending item varies). However, knowing them IRL, I know they're genuinely good guys.

Of course, dating apps by nature encourage their users to make split-second judgments about people based off their pictures and a small profile, so this is probably a difficult habit to break — but it still does suggest I should reevaluate how quickly I judge men on dating apps.

Another thing that comes with judging the dudes I'm swiping left and right on — my gut instinct is to judge whether or not I think they'll find me interesting and attractive and base my swipe on that, when in reality, I should be considering whether I'll find them interesting, attractive, and good enough to date me. A lot of this is born from longstanding anxiety and body dysmorphia struggles — but since deleting my apps and being forced to consider my dating habits more closely than I ever have before, I've been able to confront that this is a thing I do. It's not a quick fix for this habit by any means, but acknowledging it is, at least, the first step.

I can't count how many times I've let things with a guy I met off a dating app feel way too serious way too fast — and though at the time, I've perhaps always felt that things between him and I were developing at a fast rate because we were the right fit for one another, I'm now beginning to realize it was likely more so because I'm always looking for validation that this person I like also likes me back. As with my tendency to judge guys on dating apps based on whether or not I think they'll like me — as opposed to whether or not I'll like them — I think this is another habit driven by my struggles with anxiety and body dysmorphia.

Now that I've taken a step back from dating, I'm realizing just how unhealthy it was that I ever let things feel more serious than they should one, two, or even four dates in — there's no way you can know a person that quickly, let alone figure out whether you want to long-term date them. Going forward, I'm definitely going to set more boundaries.

I kid you not, I once swiped left on a guy on Tinder because his profile read 'Downtown soul, uptown living.' I still think that profile is totally cringe-y and the dude should probably reevaluate how he's presenting himself, but I also think that I could have given his profile a little more consideration based off the other things he had on there as well. The same goes for when I swipe left on guys because they have too many selfies, or if they hate the Kardashians.

Though I'm not opposed to starting conversations, I did realize that I rarely do it, and often times I've ended up with a long list of matches who I've never spoken to. Making the first move can be empowering, though, as well as set the tone for the rest of the conversation and even the first date — so this is something I'm definitely going to try a lot more if I return to dating apps at the end of this challenge.

Even though I find myself searching for intimacy too soon, I also feel inexplicably deterred by any guy who actually texts me back when he says he will, takes the initiative to plan thoughtful dates and see me consistently, and is just generally respective of my time and my life. I don't know why this is; perhaps we're all conditioned to value those who make you chase them versus the reliable types, but it is concerning that I end up uncomfortable when someone shows me the type of respect I keep saying I want.

This is a biggie for me, and something I'm working on — blaming myself when guys ghost me, or give me the run around after a great date or two. I can't tell you how many times, when a guy started acting weird and distant, I've blamed it on him not finding me interesting and attractive despite the fact we had a great date, as opposed to literally him having other things going on in his life. 'Online dating gets perceived as competition with the person above, below, left, or right of you,' Clarissa Silva, behavioral scientist and author of relationship blog You're Just A Dumbass, tells Bustle. 'You're looking for a specific set of qualities that complement you. So is everyone else. At the end, you expect that you will get what you want and so will they. When we receive multiple messages from multiple users, it enhances our self-esteem. However, if the messages are from people you wouldn't normally want to connect with, it impacts your self-esteem negatively.'

Recently, however, I actually asked a sort-of ex about why he ended things so suddenly — and it had beena relationship I'd been sure had ended because of me — and he told me it was because he'd felt he wasn't ready to commit himself to anyone after having recently broken up with a longtime girlfriend, and that he liked me and didn't want to lead me on when he knew he wasn't ready. I still struggle with reminding myself that these anxieties of mine are often in my head — and that even if they are real, I wouldn't want to be with someone who wasn't into me anyway — but taking a step back from dating apps has made me realize just how often I've done it in the past. It ends here.

I'll admit that for a while, I didn't even know what I want. Did I want a relationship? A fling? Someone to casually date on a consistent basis? Nothing? Now that I've taken a step back from dating apps, I've realized that I've been all over the place when it comes to letting guys know what I want that, most of the time, I don't do it at all. Though right now I'm coming to the realization that I haven't been as ready for a relationship as I used to think I was, I've learned that it's important that when I go back to dating, I clearly communicate what it is I'm currently looking for in dating — otherwise, any romantic opportunities will just end in confusion and regret.

Though I do prefer to talk to my dating app matches online for at least a bit before meeting, I'm beginning to learn that anything more than a few days isn't healthy at all. Though you may feel like you're getting to know the person better, you still haven't met them — yet, you're talking to them as much as you talk to your friends anyway. People portray themselves differently online whether they're trying to or not — dating apps, and even text messaging provides people with get another filter for their personality, so they just end up coming across slightly different than they do IRL. This isn't always a bad thing, but often times when you talk to someone too long, you end up building up an idea of who they are in your head — and when you meet them, you're ultimately disappointed because that's never who they were. Though I have had experiences where I've spoken to someone for over a week and ended up having great dates with them, more often than not, we end up never speaking again after date one.

On the flip side, sometimes I don't talk to matches enough before meeting, which doesn't allow me to properly screen them before spending a couple of hours of my life with them. And that's how you end up on a date with a guy who spends an hour talking about his sexual chemistry with his flight attendant ex-girlfriend before pivoting into an even longer conversation about how he was against vaccinations, and how if we had kids, he would never want them to be vaccinated. This was our first (and obviously last) date.

People get nervous on first dates — I know I do, and I always hope that if I do or say anything completely stupid, my date will give me another chance in an effort to get to know me anyway. So, why don't I do the same for men? This, I can't answer — but I do know that deleting dating apps has made me realize that I'm not only picky when it comes to swiping left and right, I'm also extremely judgmental of guys when I meet them IRL. Of course there are some things no one can come back from — like questioning feminism, or something — but I'm sad to say that in the past, I've also broken things off with guys for reasons like 'he was an awful kisser,' and 'he likes the Yankees.' At least I'm realizing how detrimental this is, right?

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This is probably the most important thing I'm beginning to realize about my relationship with dating: I have insanely on-point gut feelings about men. This isn't to brag or anything — it's just something that I've come to notice after going out on so many first dates with different men. Recently, I went on a first date with a guy who I'd been talking to from a dating app, and I felt extremely uneasy before we met. I couldn't pinpoint the reason why — we were getting along great, and though we hadn't met yet, we were talking a lot about anything and everything. I figured it was just butterflies because I liked him, and when we met up, things seemed to be going great, so I figured I was just nervous. However, as the date went on, the feeling never dissipated; and sure enough, about halfway through the date, I felt his demeanor change fairly suddenly — exactly what I'd felt was going to happen. He remained distant after the first date, and I never ended up seeing him again.

This isn't the only time that this has happened to me — every time I've felt something was about to go wrong with a dating situation, it has, and I've still not learned to trust my gut feeling and save my feelings from getting hurt. Humans are equipped with strong gut feelings for this reason, though — it's a defensive response. In the future, I've learned that I do need to trust this feeling, and let it guide me rather than sticking around for the final act.

Geez. Who'dve known deleting dating apps would lead me to a place of such reflection?

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Dating apps remain a controversial and ambivalent thing. Some like it and have met the love of their lives, others oppose it. Some of us dislike negative experiences brought on with a dating app, but still use it. That's life, that's human hopes for better. Everyone wants to be admired. Good news is that there is no shortage in mobile apps for dating. Another good news dwells in a fact that it becomes easier to make a dating app.

Admit it or not, but we've all used dating apps. The business of dating existed long before the rise of mobile apps and devices. So it is only natural that dating has occupied a large piece of mobile industry. And it exploded like crazy. From gay dating apps like Grindr to Shinder – the app matching all women to just one guy… You will find any kind you can think of. But what about the dating app development? How to create a dating app? Let's start with Why.

Admit it or not, but we've all used dating apps. The business of dating existed long before the rise of mobile apps and devices. So it is only natural that dating has occupied a large piece of mobile industry. And it exploded like crazy. From gay dating apps like Grindr to Shinder – the app matching all women to just one guy… You will find any kind you can think of. But what about the dating app development? How to create a dating app? Let's start with Why.

Why build a dating app

Dating apps will never be abandoned by users and they bring huge profits. There's your reason number one. No wonder how to make an app like Tinder is such a popular search request. And with variety of apps for dating, apps for hookups or escort, you can always put a new spin on things and earn a buck on it. Like Hater dating app, for instance, that connects people based on things they dislike.

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Find out a new niche, attract audience, introduce paid plans with extra features. And there's your business project. Make it easy as swiping right. Tinder has 50 million monthly users, Zoosk app has 30 million. Even regional and culture-specific dating mobile apps are trending. Chinese networking ap Momo reached 70 million MAU by start of 2017. Besides, social studies prove that all men and women of all ages use dating apps. From teens and adults to men of age above 50.

As it appears, love could be a blooming business. Few more interesting facts about investment value of dating apps:

• Dating is the $2.5 billion worldwide market
• 40% of all US citizens engage in online dating
• 10 billion matches reached in Tinder app
• 80% of dating app users are millennials
• $1.3 million is the monthly revenue of iOS dating app by Match.com

Dating apps features

So you want to create an app like Grindr. Some are also interested in how much Tinder costs. To make a dating app you start with defining the features. Do you want swipe-right functionality or do you want matching on location? Or are you planning on incorporating totally new unique dating app features? Well, the essential are these ones, as a rule:

• Profiles

User accounts with editable information – bio, images, interests, age, sex, etc.

• Matching

System algorithms to match people, to offer possible matches, adjustable settings

• Push notifications

Real-time alerts about events within an app – messages, matches, reminders, etc.

• Chat / messaging

For users to communicate with each other, often available as a premium (paid) option

• Social integration

Login with social media accounts, app integration to collect data for user profiles and matching

Another issue is how do you monetize a dating app? There are five basic dating app business models: New dating site.

Best dating apps

iOS dating apps or dating apps for Android – there's no great divide there, actually. Almost all popular dating apps are available for both these 2 platforms, and some for even more. Mobile apps for dating count in hundreds, but to make a dating app and know how high the bar is, check these top ones.

• Tinder – probably the most famous one. Just swiping an offered match left to refuse, or swipe right to accept. Likes and superlikes, chat and group chats, social login, matches around you, recommendations. Basically, everything you need for dating and nothing else.

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• Coffee Meets Bagel – high quality matches (bagels), pre-selected matches based on personal profiles, chat, search and filters, premium accounts. A separate functionality for LGBTQ community.

• Happn – a specific kind of matches that helps discover people you've already crossed paths with. On the street, cafe or concert. Users just turn on the location services on their phones. Fun additional features like 'Just say Hi'.

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• Zoosk – a dating app for serious relationship building. It uses artificial intelligence algorithm (AI) to check user preferences and offer more confident matches. It even validates users' phone numbers first, and photos as well.

• Match – a mobile version of famous Match.com, one of the first dating services on the Internet. Similar features to all the other dating apps, while additional cool features are subscription only. Great both for single men and single women.

How to make a dating app

If you see a gap on the dating market and wish to create your own mobile app, you're welcomed to go ahead. Maybe your idea will become the next Tinder. We'll all adore it and you'll make huge profits. A win-win situation. If you have little knowledge in making apps, we can help.

Outsourcing mobile development is possible as a whole, or partially. We can do a market research for you, we can prepare an estimate of your app concept. We can do design tasks for a dating app, as well as wireframes and visual prototypes. Also we can test your product.

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Of course, this is just one of the options. Though, we also have the expertise to make a dating app skillfully and efficiently, and can tell you how much does a dating app cost to make. Date people, love people, enjoy yourself!

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